Since the end of last month I left Asheville, flew back to the west coast, packed up all our belongings and moved out of our Venice pad. We then traveled to Vegas and spent the weekend at Further Future out in the desert while Kaliana stayed in Vegas with family. We’ve traveled through Zion, Sedona and currently outside of Phoenix. All that in just over a week and loads more to go, at least for the next 2 months.
I love this on the go life, it’s full of adventure, but it can also be full of chaos and often a bucket load of stress. So how do I deal? Not always 100% on point but I’ve learned a few things along the way that I thought I would share here. In fact I’ve even been doing a daily video with tips on my mindfulness journey as part of this experience. You can follow along on our adventures through YouTube too.
But for now, let’s look at my top 5 tips for staying sane amongst the chaos.
1. Let go of agenda.
This doesn’t mean that you don’t make plans for the day but if you’re rigid about timing or don’t add enough padding to each activity...forget about it. Stress city. This is probably one of the most challenging solutions for most because we live in a world where there are deadlines and meetings and timing that is often out of our control, but as much as possible if we can let go of the constructs and embrace what is right in front of us we can often find the magic that our children live in.
I use this one a lot. It seems so simple but the amount of times that I forget to breathe or hold my breath without realizing is daunting. When food gets tossed all over the car, or she writes on the walls of our airbnb, or when the words coming out of the mouths of my loved ones feel hurtful...breathe. Take a minute to gather myself and then rethink how to respond to the situation.
3. Keep a strong agreement with your spouse.
This is like the backbone to surviving a toddler. The best way I have found to stay connected with my hubby is to take time with just him and I. This isn’t always easy when juggling schedules and when traveling without a consistent support network, but there are ways to make it happen, even if it’s just 10 minute check-ins daily. Team work. It’s the best and only way.
4. Get to know your inner zen.
It’s one thing to talk about taking time to pause and check in with oneself but what’s the point if you’re not even sure who/what you’re supposed to be checking in with? If you’re unfamiliar with that space, get to know yourself deeper by doing more frequent but less lengthy pauses throughout the day. Every time you take a sip of water, stop and tune in to your body and mind...what’s it saying? Cultivate the quiet space within so when times get crazy there is always an inner sanctuary you can retreat to.
5. Daily practice of joy.
This little tip was shared with me recently as a reminder to care for myself. It’s more than taking time out to do errands or work, even if it’s on a passion project, it’s about doing something that truly makes your heart sing and puts a smile on your face. Maybe it’s doing yoga, going for a walk, having a drink, or doing a dance in the middle of the street...who knows but you?! The important thing is to take the time, the effort, and make it a priority. Everyone will be grateful to have a happy mama.
I am sure there are more tips and tricks to staying sane than listed here. But I trust this is a good start to get your creative juices flowing and to know that you are not alone in this crazy world. We are all looking to find our balance and ways to juggle the opportunities and challenges that lay in front of us. Need more support? Have tools you want to share? Join us on the #mumboss hotline and connect with your tribe.
We’re in it together.